Those of us who are old enough to remember the 80’s know one thing for certain:
We loved our hair.
When I was 16 Madonna was in “Vogue.” Cyndi Lauper identified my “True Colors” and Depeche Mode was helping me find my “Personal Jesus.”
We pegged up our high-waisted, acid wash jeans, listened to a few cassettes on the Walkman and applied teal blue eyeliner before school. I would have crimped my hair but it was already curly enough so I just spritzed on “Poison” perfume and hit the door in my combat boots and lace tights. Vans and legwarmers also lined my closet.
There are many versions of 80’s hair~ one to suit every personality.
Most involved Aqua Net.
This particular number was taken at Glamour Shots circa 1987. (If you don’t know what that is you can hang out with my daughter~ I’m fine with that.) Glamour Shots were photograpy places in malls. And very cool. The props were mainly boas and anything that might be worn on the t.v. shows “Dallas” or Dynasty.”
It seemed like a really good idea to us 80’s girls at the time. All. Of. It.
The hair, the big earrings, the parachute pants, legwarmers, acid-wash and neon colors.
But today we look back and all the hairspray, crimping irons and banana clips make us cringe. Maybe they were a terrible idea after all.
We feel kind of foolish.
Idols are like that.
Each way we crave to be seen and known seems timeless, or maybe a bit rebellious. The things we think define us come in many forms so we pick our combination from a long list that seem attractive. “Everybody’s doing it.” we tell ouselves.
So we make idols out of:
Words from others
Some things we even obsess over are GOOD things. And they seem to fill us up for awhile.
But the idols lie to us, just like bad 80’s hairstyles.
There is nothing timeless about them.
They are held up by little more than aerosol hairspray and popular opinion.
It’s time to call a spade a spade and a Glamour Shot a Glamour Shot.
It’s time to step away from the mirage that is nothing more than angled mirrors, harsh lighting, costumes, and big earrings.
The hair used to be cute. But it’s time to get some “Gee Your Hair Smells Terrific” and get a handle on that mess.
We don’t need any of it. We are way more beautiful without the Aqua Net and aqua eyeliner, the accomplishments and the awards.
In the mirror of God’s words we are:
There’s a little revolution about all this happening~
It’s a laying down of idols. And I’d love for you to join in.
I recently read Jennifer Dukes Lee’s beautiful book “Love Idol: Letting go of your need for approval . . . and seeing yourself through God’s eyes.” and then I shared it with my 16-year old daughter. We’re both so excited that this book is now available everywhere~ releasing one week early! I encourage you to pick up a copy and then to share it with a friend or in a small group discussion.
You’ll find these gems:
“Dear God, help me get over myself today.” ~ Jennifer Dukes Lee
Personal strength is not necessarily a virtue. Neither is got-it-togetherness. ~ Jennifer
We tell each other that it’s safe to be authentic, but are we making unthreatening places for people to be less than perfect? ~Jennifer
RUN get this book.
And if you still have any acid-wash jeans? Um, it’s time for those to GO, and your idols with them. Good riddens.
To keep this 80’s Love Idol train going, I’m joining a sista over here because we are laying down our Aqua Net and quest for approval to know we are preapproved.
So go visit Tammy at If Meadows Speak.
And she’s rocking the acid wash floral today and “Laying Down Idols Like an 80’s Legwarmer.”
In all seriousness, order Jennifer’s book here and join the Love Idol Movement.
And have you seen the 2 minute video of beautiful truth below? You are preapproved!