Dear Friend Who Doesn’t Like Mother’s Day,
The greeting card aisle is going to be packed tomorrow at the grocery store- dozen of folks swarmed around to find just the right words to stick in an envelope. It’s coming Sunday: Mother’s Day. This is the day we set aside to celebrate moms and all they mean to us. Seventy-five percent of all the flower sales in the U.S. each year happen THIS weekend. That’s a lot of roses, ya’ll. For many moms and their children this is a beautiful day filled with family and flowers, good food and gifts. We will smile and thank our families and share a meal, and it will be restful. I anticipate it will be that way for me. But this is far from reality for many.
Because sometimes there are no words and no bouquets.
For some Mother’s Day can be a brutal-reminder kind of day. The day that points out to a woman all the holes, the tattered places, the loss. There is a vacant seat at the table, an empty mailbox, or a painful place in our hearts.
Because this broken world can mean wayward children and less-than-perfect relationships. Often there is no card that can be purchased that says just the right thing from a daughter who carries too much pain and distance between herself and her mom. Or Sunday might be a day that a daughter just sits with memories of her mother, lost from this world because of cancer, a lifetime cut way too short.
Or maybe a mother sits surrounded by photographs hung on the walls of her children, her table empty, no visitors to welcome. Maybe she’s lost a child to death or to a prodigal path. Maybe there’s just silence these days. Maybe she has given up that she will ever hug them again.
These are not Hallmark moments.
So to all the moms or daughters who feel a little broken this Mother’s Day… I see you. This Sunday might be a time for mending for you, or it might just be a day to sit with the feelings. I don’t know. I only know that I have a little gift for you, to remind you that regardless of your circumstances, you are beloved.
I created these reminders for myself: 18 scriptures printed on a page that speak truth to me. I framed them, right there here where I can see them daily.
They contain words like:
You are loved. You are beautiful. You are special. You are cared for.
Words from a Father who knew that we would need them. Words just maybe for such a time as this- a day that comes with mixed feelings and lonely places.
So to moms or daughters that find this weekend hard, these are for you. I’d send you roses and daisies from my yard too if I could. You are not alone.
You can download the below printable here.